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OUR VOICES
Our Voices
These stories are contributed by women who have sought support and who are now being given the opportunity to share their experiences. More will be added as we receive them. The stories are anonymous as contributors fear reprisals from former partners and their allies. We offer complete confidentiality to our contributors.
If you have also been affected by any of the issues in these stories, please view our Resources page.


Melissa's Story: The Other Woman
He loved going shopping with me. I thought it was fun because most men didn’t enjoy picking out skirts, heels, and lingerie...
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Anna’s Story- Dude Looks Like a Lady
I married a man who wore blue jeans and t-shirts. We met in Washington,DC. When we dated we had so many common interests in music, ballet,
3,554


Siobhan’s Story – Reality Bites
Like many women I stayed too long. I was raised to have a faith which I have passed on to my child, and it led me to stay in our marriage..
3,779


Alison’s Story, Part 2: The Burn Mark
No chance for reconciliation? My voice was unexpectedly full of tears even though I replied as she as she expected.
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Alison's Story: Uncoupling
No preparation. No warning. No clue. Just the announcement: "I've decided I'm transgendered". We'd been married for thirty-three years.
27,988


Jessica's Story: Acceptance with One Exception
Where do I start? I met my husband, we’ll call him Bill, who was a real gentleman and treated me very respectfully.
16,256


Celia's Story: Respite
I don't want to be bitter or intolerant. I don't want to be "in denial". But sometimes my mind needs respite.
8,634


Persephone’s Story: Escape From The Underworld.
I was in a relationship with a man, Matt. We shared political ideals, as these ideals were very important to me in my close relationships.
1,507


Linda's Story: Look Back In Anger
13th Rule of Misogyny: Angry women are crazy. Angry men have trouble expressing themselves...
13,909


Sapphire’s Story - Seasons (A poem)
When he shattered my remains The vase broke into shards That spoke louder than trite words In that crystallised moment I know that his...
980


Tsevea's Story: The Man In The Mirror
I had seen the pictures of him before when he was in the Navy. Dressing in a sexy red dress that was still in his closet.
18,175


Bertina's Story: The Never Ending Trans Widow Story
All those years ago, I'd not an inkling that this end of my life would still be an exploration of my ex-husband's lies and deceit--this...
20,300


Sadie's Story: Losing Him, Losing Us
To paraphrase Will Ladislaw from Middlemarch (played in the early-’90s BBC miniseries by the delectable Rufus Sewell), there are some things
13,195


Shalyn's Story: Out of My Closet & On With My Life
I will never forget our wedding day. What should have been a long-forgotten comment would haunt me for years later.
36,145


Liz’s Story - A Lesbian Trans Widow Speaks
I was expected to smile my way through it all”: A lesbian transwidow tells her heart-wrenching story to Jo Bartosch
9,844


Mary Joan's Story: Paying The Price
"I am transgender and am immediately going to start transition. But I am also your husband, so you have a say in all of this."
26,852


Karen's Story - Part 2: What Helped Me
Karen, a previous contributor, shares her experience of leaving.
8,368


Karen's Story - Part 1: Counselling
Thanks to improved awareness and resourcing, there are now multiple counselling & support services for individuals contemplating transition.
9,093


Tinsel's Story: These Chains
It was a song called "These Chains" that saved my life. It was the soundtrack to the months before and after I left my husband.
12,130


Autumn's Story: Let's Split Up & Look For Clues!
People always ask “Didn’t you know?”, or “You must have seen the signs?” I always thought the answer to both questions was “NO!”.
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