Useful Resources

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Other Trans Widows Stories

Naeferty’s Website 

The Trans Widow

Articles Published By "Make More Noise" - A Feminist Collective

A Plea For Help For Feminists From A Trans Widow

Trans Widows and The Spousal Veto - A Modern Fable of Male Entitlement

Some Dads Are Trans. Get Over It!  - A Review of Nothing Ever Happens

Articles Published By Uncommonground Media

Which Side are You on Girls? The Role of Transwidows in Feminism

The Spousal Exit Clause: Trans Widows Rights are not Yours to Give Away

YouTube Links To Talks & Interviews

Women's Place, Edinburgh

TED Talk by Shannon Thrace - Shannon is a former partner of a transitioner, whose transition came about through his use of ‘tranny porn’. When she says that people don’t want her to tell her story, it's because it contradicts the popular narrative of transition.

Abigail Rowland at Let A Woman Speak, Plymouth (from about 1 hour 16 mins)

Part One - My Husband Came Out As Trans by Biirdheart

Part Two - An Update After She Left by Biirdheart

BBC Womans Hour - How My Ex-husband's Transition Made Me Feel

Abusive Autogynephilic Men Have Taken Charge: Interview with Jenny, a Trans Widow and Erin Brewer

An Interview with Graham Linehan - Jennifer's Story

Newspaper Articles

Christine Benvenuto - My Husband's Sex Change (Guardian 02/11/2012)



Sex Changes by Christine Benvenuto

What do you do when the other woman is your husband? Christine Benvenuto and her husband had been married for more than twenty years and were raising their three young children in a beautiful New England town. One night in bed he turned to her and said, "I'm thinking constantly about my gender," adding that he was unhappy in his body and wanted to become a woman.

Resources For Children of Transitioners

Children of Transitioners - A resource for anyone with a transgender parent.

Information About Autogynephilia

What Is Autogynephilia - An Interview with Dr Ray Blanchard

The Elephant in the Room by Sue Donym

Something You Should Realise About Autogynephiles By Lara Adams-Miller

Narcissim and Gaslighting 

50 Shades Of Gaslighting: Disturbing Signs An Abuser Is Twisting Your Reality

Lundy Bancroft – Why Does He Do That? Inside The Minds Of Angry & Controlling Men

20 Diversion Tactics Narcissists Use To Silence You


Mumsnet Feminist Chat – A space where trans widows are always supported

Straight Spouse Network - The Straight Spouse Network (SSN) is an international organisation that provides personal, confidential support and information to heterosexual spouses/partners, current or former, of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender mates and mixed-orientation or transgender/non-transgender couples for constructively resolving coming-out problems. 

The Freedom Programme – A useful resource for all trans widows.

Womens Aid - A grassroots organisation working together to provide working to keep women and children safe.

Refuge - The UK National Domestic Abuse helpline.


Feminist Current - What happens when your husband decides he is a woman.

Tracy Shannon Part 1 - Tracy Shannon married her high school sweetheart. She married the man of her dreams... or, so she thought. What she thought was a marriage made in heaven became something very different, as her husband eventually revealed he wanted to be a woman. Her life turned upside down.

Tracy Shannon Part 2 - Tracy Shannon's compelling interview on being married to a man who revealed a dark side he failed to disclose prior to their wedding.

Historical Articles

The Psychological Effect on Wives and Partners of Transsexuals






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